‘Why Is Christmas In Japan A Time For Lovers?’ Asks Article

How is Christmas celebrated in Japan?

While on Christmas Eve many in the West might have been sitting down to a family dinner in preparation for an even bigger dinner on December 25, how was Christmas Eve being spent in Japan?

In recent years, particularly for families with young children, Christmas is celebrated in a very similar way to how it is celebrated in Europe or America, with children eagerly awaiting the arrival of Santa and presents. But the real way to celebrate Christmas in Japan is with your boyfriend or girlfriend. In Japan, Christmas Eve is a night for lovers.

The article below discusses the phenomenon, along with netizen opinions on the reasons why Christmas should be a lovers’ festival in Japan.

From Yahoo! Netallica:

It’s a theme that is repeated year in year out. The rule that ‘Christmas Eve is for lovers and romance’, though implicit, makes its presence felt. Feeling that I should investigate this mystery, I tried searching for it on Oshiete! goo [a site similar to Yahoo! Answers]:

‘Why Do Japanese Spend Christmas Eve With Their Lover?’

Having asked someone they liked(?) to a party, a netizen, duffyduffyvさん, asked ‘Why do Japanese spend Christmas Eve with their lovers? Although they are Buddhists, why do they celebrate a Christian festival? And why do they spend it with their lovers rather than their family?’, and furthermore they also added ‘I just don’t understand why they’re hung up on December 24.’

However, those responding to the question said things like, ‘If you can win that argument, you may as well have a party!’. Here, I will introduce some of the answers given to the question on Oshite! goo, and I’m going to suppress the feeling of wanting to ignore the respondents as ‘irritating people’.

A typical Japanese Christmas cake

A typical Japanese Christmas cake

■ Is Your Lover Santa Claus?

‘The ancient Japanese religion was Shinto. Namely, a religion with myriad gods and goddesses. Even Buddha and Christ are no more than one god from a whole host of deities. Therefore, even if we celebrate Christmas, there are no discrepancies.’(hekiyuさん)

‘The point is that we don’t have to get hung up on “Westernness”, or “Learning about the real Christmas”. For Japanese, “Westernness” is not real, […] Christmas has the same appeal as a “matsuri” [festival].’(gldfishさん)

These are the individual perspectives of the respondents, but ‘matsuri’ seems to be a perfectly fitting phrase.

‘It was since Yuuming’s [singer Matsuyoya Yumi] song ‘My Lover Is Santa Clause’ that Christmas Eve became a day to spend with your lover. People became richer, […], hotels, who had their eye on this, offered loads of Christmas plans. […]. It was the natural flow of things that Christmas Eve then became thought of as a day you spend with your lover.’(IDii24さん)

According to Wikipedia, it appears that it was after the Christmas sales wars were waged in the 1900s that Christmas spread to countries across the globe. Even regarding Christmas Eve parties, Wikipedia says that the oldest is recorded as being in the Meiji period, and that the custom of spending Christmas Eve with the opposite sex had already become common by the early Showa period. Still, it seems that even Yuuming’s song, that is played at this time every year, can be said to have played an important part in creating the image of Christmas as a time you spend with your lover.

Many hotels in Japan offer romantic Christmas plans for couples.

Many hotels in Japan offer romantic Christmas plans for couples.

And For Those Who Blow Hot and Cold

This writer had some doubts about the hot/cold nature of the questioner’s date. In this case, the comment below might be the correct approach to take.

‘Logically speaking, of course it’s inconsistent that we celebrate Christmas Eve like this, but for me, Christmas Eve is an extremely important day that I spent enjoying with my family or my friends when I was young, so is it wrong to say I want to spend that important day with the one I love?’(alienabiliさん)

Although there was no one was able to give a definitive reason as to why Christmas is celebrated in this way in Japan, there was also the perspective that:

‘(The reason Christmas Eve has spread in Japan’ is most likely because it was the festival of the winter solstice, I think. In Japan, where we have four seasons and winter is generally cold, the joy of the winter solstice […] just seems to work with Christmas Eve.’

In the church calendar, it seems that it is Christmas from nightfall (the evening of December 24). So there is also the explanation, just as the previous response says, ‘the festival of the winter solstice that celebrates the reappearance of the sun’. In Japan, where harmony is respected, then isn’t it alright if we cast it as an ‘annual occurrence in which we feel the passage of the seasons’? After all, Japan is a country that has respect for the cultures of other nations…

Leaving aside the issue of whether the netizen who asked the original question was able to win the argument, and enjoy Christmas Eve, I think I’d like to end by representing the Christmas Loners’ Alliance, with the words: ‘Stop rubbing my face in it, you bastard.’

Irie Neco

Comments from


Why do we celebrate? Because it’s a ‘holy’ day. [The netizen swaps the kanji for ‘holy’ for the kanji for ‘sex’ to create a pun].


Since Japan is the country of myriad gods, and Jesus is one of those gods, we’ve welcomed it. Guess it’s like the god of materialism and sex


Simply put, we ain’t Christians, so the rules of Christianity have nothing to do with us w Hahah!


I guess that all the mingers over there are complaining about it.


We’re Japanese, so just as there are Christian customs, there are different customs in each country.

52 : 斑(長屋):

Thanks to all the scum who are the nether regions of Japan, the image of Japan has increasingly growing worse. Christmas is not the day to have sex!!!!! Get out here, you bastards who decided that Christmas would be a day for lovers where they’re all making out and stuff.


It’s because your lover is your family


You guys would think it was weird if on O-Bon the yanks were in a festive move and having sex, wouldn’t you?


Japan is country that was made by importing other cultures.


I wonder why Halloween and Thanksgiving aren’t popular.


It has no relation to religion, we just do it as we become intoxicated by that romantic, fairy-tale atmosphere. I mean, Christmas is so pretty, right?


Just as there are similarities and differences between Japanese sushi and American sushi, isn’t it better if we understand ‘Japanese Christmas’ simply as a seasonal event that is not religious, and that doesn’t celebrate anything in particular?


Just because we’re enjoying Christmas it doesn’t mean that we’re celebrating something religious.


You can make out in the open. I’m happy.


I’m with the foreigners all the way on this one. It’s just making a mockery of Christianity and Christmas. That’s right, cancel it, cancel it.


It’s because in the case of Japan, the culture of other countries is changed into our own inimitable Japanese culture.


Honestly, we don’t need Christmas. We’re alright just having O-Shogatsu as the Japanese end of year event.


If you go out alone for a walk on Christmas day, it seems like you’re being stigmatized. Why do I have to feel like that? Shitty Japan.


I guess it’s up to you how you spend Christmas.


I’m not bothered either way. If there’s an event it’s just a pretext to ask people out.


Whether you celebrate with family, or pray at church, or make the bed creak, you can just do whatever suits you.

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