‘Have Sex With Older Woman,’ Feminist Advises Teen Virgin

Japanese feminist Ueno Chizuko tells boy to lose virginity by having sex with older woman

A leading Japanese feminist and social critic has shocked readers of the Asahi Shimbun by suggesting that a middle-school boy who was increasingly unable to control his sexual urges should ask a mature woman to allow him to have sex with her.

Ueno Chizuko, who is a well-known academic in Japan, wrote her reply to the boy, who had written asking for help, in the newspaper’s life advice column. Specifically, she spoke about the old Japanese custom of ‘fude-oroshi’, literally ‘dipping your brush in’, which is a euphemism for when men lose their virginity. This was usually done with an older woman, simply so that the boy would no longer be a virgin and could begin his life as an adult man.

Ueno’s suggestion apparently left readers astounded, and became an instant internet sensation.


Ueno Chizuko Tells Middle-School Boy ‘Ask a Mature Woman To Have Sex With You’, Shocking ‘Life Advice’

Sociologist Ueno Chizuko (64) shocked readers when in an Asahi Shimbun life advice column she replied to a male middle-school student whose problem was finding sexual relief that, “It’s best to ask a mature woman to let you have sex with her’.

Since in the article it appeared as though, had she been younger, Ueno would have wanted to help the middle-school boy to ‘dip his brush in’, comments such as ‘Is she right in the head?’ and ‘Is she promoting obscenity?’ immediately spread on Twitter.

The life advice column with Ueno’s reply was entitled ‘The Crucible of Anxiety’ which was carried in the ‘be’ magazine that came with the December 8 2012 edition of the Asahi Shimbun. The person asking the question was a 15 year old middle-school student, whose sexual desire had grown so strong that he couldn’t concentrate on studying for his [high-school] entrance exams. Although he relieved himself of sexual desire [through masturbation], he became horny when he saw cute girls. He was anxious that he would be unable to suppress the urge to touch a real girl’s body and would end up assaulting a girl walking at night.

In her reply, Ueno was unsympathetic, saying that it was because men are creatures who are at the mercy of their sexual desires. But that for a high-school student whose sexual desire ought to be at its peak, it was troublesome to actually go out with a girl, and explained that ‘What I want you to remember first of all, is that going out with a member of the opposite sex can be a pain. Although it’s a pain to be just friends with them, when you get into the kind of a relationship where they’ll take off their knickers off for you, it’s even more of a pain’, and instructed him that there were ways of having sex that could avoid this ‘trouble’.

‘Try asking a woman with a wealth of experience ‘Please have sex with me’ — you can even get down on your knees to ask’.

Of Ueno’s friends who had done this, it seemed that one out of ten times they’d been told ‘OK, let’s do it’. In the old days there were mature women who would help a boy ‘dip his brush in’ for the first time.

Ueno concluded with the words, ‘Even I, had I been younger….’, and advised that when the boy had accumulated enough experience, then he should ask a girl he really liked to have sex with him.

So if you kneel ten times you’ll be told it’s OK once?

The internet has been in an uproar about Ueno’s reply, and the topic spread rapidly on Twitter. While there are also those who have a favourable impression of the dramatically fresh approach to the issue, there have also been opinions such as ‘If I’d been young….I mean, wouldn’t a middle-school boy be totally traumatized by that?’, ‘This isn’t really something you’d say to a middle-school student’, and ‘Don’t the PTA have something to say about this? It must have something to do with the Child Welfare Law or Obscenity Bill’.

It was even taken as a talking point on the Tokyo MX TV programme ‘5pm Obsession Saturday!’ broadcast on December 8, 2012, and the comedian Tamabukuro Sujitarou said that all he’d understood from it was that if you ask a mature woman to have sex with you, you’ll be told it’s OK one out of ten times, so throughout the programme he kept on kneeling down and asking.

Comments from Itai News:

Posted by \ヤミノホノオニダカレテ/:

I vomited.

Posted by 名無しのサッカープレイヤー:

Absolutely no way…

Posted by   :

If it had been the other way around, and a man had been telling a woman this, then they’d have had a more thorough bashing online I guess…

Posted by   :

Sorry, anyone mind if I puke?

Posted by   :

Do it for real, then you’ll get reported to the police.

Posted by … :

Like a virgin would understand the value of a mature woman.

Posted by   :

They could catch some strange disease and the future of a young person with no prospects in life would be pretty bleak. It’s just too big a risk.

Posted by   :

So it would be possible for an old bloke to have sex with a female middle-school student, then? Good question by me.

Posted by    :

What the hell do they mean by a problem with sexual relief w Don’t talk about it like it’s a social problem w So trivial w

Posted by 八神はやて :

(-_-;) I hate women who’ve abandoned all sense of shame…

Posted by ミ☆:

If a guy said that in the middle of the street he’d be reported.

Posted by うん :

No matter how strong a teenage boy’s sexual desire was, hags in their 50’s and 60’s really stink, the stench of their breath, of their bodies. Their skin is also dirty. Most of the time they wouldn’t go through with it.

Posted by   :

I think that it’s best to just go out with someone close to your own age, otherwise it’s vulgar.

Posted by VIPPERな名無しさん :

Seems like Professor Ueno’s lifework has been deflating dicks…When I was younger she was a scary old woman, used to make me flinch with fear.

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Can’t she just say what she thinks? The world isn’t just all sweetness and light.

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I think it’s going a bit far if you do it with someone who’s over fifty, but it’s better than being a virgin I reckon.

Posted by 名無し:

I couldn’t forgive a sweet middle-school student being sullied by an old hag. Even if the boys are begging for it…that’s a big mistake.

Posted by   :

It happens. But is it OK just to do it out of sexual desire?

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